The More The Merrier

I am an only child.  So aside from a handful of foster siblings, I have no idea what it's like to live with brothers and/or sisters.

That was my main reason for wanting to have as many kids as possible.  I always felt so alone and would have loved to have a brother or sister.

I remember the days, when Hope was an only child.  Oh how Hubby and I doted on our sweet, little princess.  We held true to first-time parents form and spent every second with Hope.  We were so occupied with watching and caring for Hope, we couldn't imagine how we would care for another child.

When Nick came along. we adapted.  We learned to care for both babies, but again, all our time was dedicated to caring for them.  Taking care of a third child seemed almost impossible.

By the time Ashley came along, I had gained so much confidence as a mom.  I had done a fairly good job of caring for Hope and Nick, having another baby no longer seemed so overwhelming.  I was so at ease with caring for three children, adding another one was something I looked forward to.

Which we did.  Jack was our fourth child.

Raising four children isn't as hard as you think.  Sure, there's never a quiet moment, but I love that!  I love listening to my children play, laugh, squeal and scream. 

This Sunday, we got a taste of what life with one child is like again.  Hope, Nick and Jack went out with my brother-in-law's family.  Ashley didn't want to go, she preferred to stay home and see what life without any siblings is like.

We loved spending some alone time with Ashley.  We played a few games.  Read a couple of books.  And watched T.V.

But the house was too quiet.  Disturbingly quiet.

No one screaming, "Mamáaaaaaa!"

No one screaming at all!

Even Ashley noted that something just didn't feel right.  She loved playing with Mamá and Papá, but she missed playing with her brothers and sisters.  Without them, she just felt kind of bored.

As the afternoon passed, the three of us grew restless.

Finally, after what seemed like an eternity, my three children returned home. As they entered the house, the nerve-wracking silence was broken.  And we couldn't have been happier.

With Love,


  1. This is such a sweet story. I admit, I was never that close to my younger brothers (big age gap had something to do with it, I'm sure) and longed for peace and quiet, lol. I guess it's all what you're used to, right?

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  2. My husband is an only child... he says he didn't miss having a brother or a sister because he just never knew what it would be like so he enjoyed being the only one... I tell him he has no idea how much better it is to have siblings ... and it is! You are not alone! (especially if you are a Mexican LOL!) you have these friends always with you! I am so close to my sister and brother! They are great... and I do want to have more kids so my daughter enjoys that part of life too ;)

  3. I also LOVE having a big family as well as my husband. I guess I like the chaos ;) I come from a family of 4 and he from one of 7 and there is nothing sweeter then having good times with your siblings. I would have loved to have more but we just cant afford them ;(

  4. congrats on your blog anniversary and what a wonderful family you have! thanks so much for stopping by my blog on my SITS day, I really appreciate it!

  5. That's a very sweet story. But I'm an only child and I never wished for a sibling.. now I have an only child and part of me does wish for a another...

  6. Suggestion: Next time you think of something you'd like to do if you were by yourself in a quiet house (or just with hubby), make a note of it. Maybe even make a start or just keep it in mind. One day your house is going to be very quiet, when they're all teens, later when they're off having their own lives. You'll want to be prepared for that time, or it will be too hard to let them go.

  7. Stopping by from SITS and wishing you a great Thursday :)

  8. SCRAPS: Thank you so much for stopping by!

    PALOMA: My hubby is the youngest of six, so he never even considered having just one child.

    MAMA of 4: That's exactly what I'm talking about. That chaos! Gotta love it!

    VISIT LA MANZANILLA: I was raised by my grandparents, so maybe that's one of the reasons I wanted a sibling. I wanted someone my age to hang out with.

    BLISS: Thank you for the suggestions!

  9. Love it! I always tell my kids they're heart grows bigger when they have more people to love. I had to re-read this though, I thought for sure you were going to say another one on the way!!

  10. Aw, that is so cute. I am so glad that I'm not an only child, and I plan on having at least 2 if I ever have kids. Stopping by from SITS

  11. Oh, if I could only go back in time, I would definitely do things differently and probably have more children. We were fairly young when we let our parents and the lack of money AT THE TIME influence our decision not to have any more children. At the ripe old age of 27 and 25, we made it permanent. We have often regretted that decision. :0(

    I'm stopping by from SITS! I wanted to spread some comment love. I hope you and your hubby enjoy all your beautiful children and don't ever let anyone interfere with your decisions about creating them! :0)


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  12. i remember as a kid wishing for a large family too. There were 3 of us girls in my family and all my aunts and uncles had at least 8 kids. It was always so fun at their house! then i had my own - i stopped at 3. sometimes i wish i would have had just one more. Now i wait for the day i become an abuela. Meanwhile there a plenty of nieces and we are all quite loud when we get together. :)

  13. Great story. I come from a family of 14. Mom & Dad, 6 boys and 6 girls. I am the youngest. We are all very close, I wouldn't change that experience for anything. My mom's house is packed during Christmas.

    I'm now married and have a beautiful little girl 18 months old. Me and my wife spend every moment possible with her. We have thought about having more kids but do worry on how it would affect our little girl.

    Your post came at the right time for me. Thanks.

  14. I came from a family of four kids too. Never a dull moment for my mom!

    Love your story...

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  15. Raising 4 kids is worse than raising 2, right? Yeah, then it's as hard as I think. :)

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  16. Such a nice post. I have 3 boys and know exactly what you mean. They are now grown and only one lives at home and it is so quiet. It's just weird. I miss the boys and love it when everyone is all together for dinner!

  17. That is sweet and so not me!!! I have six and love the quiet whenvever I can get it! Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest!

  18. I am the youngest of 11 kids and I love it! I wouldn't have it any other way. I probably wont have more than 4 kids though :)

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  19. My daughter is an only child and she says she wants a big family too!

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  21. Whoo hoo for chaos, you know Im there with you Leslie except my reason is the opposite. I did grow up with tons of siblings and I wouldn't have it any other way. We played games that no one else had ever heard of because we made them up at home. The funny thing is that even with all those siblings I still had an imaginary friends. lol

  22. This is a sweet post that made me smile.