Unanswered Prayers

Last month, I told you about my struggle to have children and how I begged God to allow me to have at least one child.  But there was also a time, when I considered not having anymore children.

I was pregnant with Ashley and was making plans to travel to the U.S. with my two young children.  We were a happy family of four, soon-to-be family of five.

Hubby and I spent many a sleepless night watching World Cup 2002 soccer matches and discussing the fate of our family.  Were three kids enough?  Did we want to have more? Could we afford to have more?  How much longer would we continue having children?  I really didn't imagine myself having children at the ripe old age of 30.  

After months and months of discussion, Hubby and I decided that Ashley would be our last child. 

When I traveled to California to deliver Ashley, the first thing I discussed with the OB/GYN were the alternatives to closing down my baby factory for good.  My OB/GYN suggested tubal ligation and with a heavy heart, I agreed.  But God had other plans, because the doctor started flipping through my paperwork and asked me how old I was.  I was 27 at the time, and Ashley was due the day after my 28th birthday.

The doctor looked up from his paperwork and shook his head.  He looked at me, smiled, then proceeded to tell me that I was too young to be considered for tubal ligation.  I had to be 30  or older for the procedure.

To be honest, I wasn't the least bit broken-hearted.  Remember, I am the same girl who always wanted a big family.  Hubby wasn't too upset either when he learned the news.  We both said "Por algo sera", which means there's a reason why this happened.

But even without the tubal ligation, Hubby and I didn't plan on having more children.  But again, God had other plans, because four months after my 30th birthday, Jack was born.

Tomorrow (January 25th) is Jack's 5th birthday and this line from a Garth Brooks song sums it up perfectly:
"Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers."

With Love,


  1. what a handsome fellow and beautiful mama! feliz cumpleanos, jack!

    teresa de lake stevens

  2. Happy birthday to your son! I'm curious, as to why you chose to go to the US to have the baby? Did you do this with all of your children? What is your knowledge/experience with childbirth in Mexico? Sorry for all the questions...:-)

  3. I started to say that I always enjoy your maternal tales of love. Then I realized I could simply say I enjoy your writing; you are the epitome of maternal love.

  4. Leslie,
    Don't shut things down just yet. You may have a long way to go. My Ma gave birth to me at 33 and my little brother (the youngest of four) didn't come along until she was 37. She died at age 92. The delay in childbirth was because of World War II.

  5. TERESA: Thank you so much! How are you doing?

    LEAH: Ask as many questions as you want and I will try to answer them all. If not here in the comments section, I'll send them via Facebook.

    STEVE: I'm speechless! :D Thank you!

    BOB: No need to worry. Neither of us have shut anything down. My grandmother also had her children late in life. She was 36 when my mother was born.

  6. awww...he looks like a little man! If you answer her questiosn...I'm curious too!